Three tips for tacit understanding of newlyweds
Marriage makes two people have to get close to each other, eat and sleep together, and go in and out together . and tacit understanding is a look and a gesture, not even a certain mind, which can make each other understand and resonate .… One, aim your humor at yourself. The less you are afraid of revealing the clumsy side in front of the other party, the more relaxed you are in front of the other party, the better the tacit agreement between the two parties will be.
When exercising the ability of both sides to withstand jokes, remember to point your humor at yourself.
At the wedding stage, the unpleasant experience is likely to be caused by an inadvertent joke, such as making fun of the other’s hot hair like an electric shocked poodle, or making fun of the other’s huge figure like a hippo.
This is because, at this stage, the two sides have not yet become familiar with “seeing jokes as intimate”, and making fun of each other is more “high-level” flirting than sweet talk; otherwise, the person who provoked the joke did not first”Spearhead” aimed at himself.
Experts believe that each couple has a strong potential for humor, and the party with a stronger humorous ability should assume the obligation to mobilize each other’s humorous energy, and this “demonstration” can begin with self-deprecation.
Song Yang, 28, was particularly upset that her husband had called her “flower butterfly” (meaning she always splashed a lot of glitter when she went to a bar or party), but she was relieved when he claimed to be “I am a chimpanzee”.
“At the end of the summer, he swam in the open-air swimming pool for at least 30,000 meters. He was so dark that when I made fun of him that he was even darker than the orangutan, every time he texted me, his signature was like an orangutan cartoon.
This incident made Song Yang review his “allergic” reaction to the three words “flower butterfly”: “I can call him like this, not to make me change, but to make it easier for us to get along.
Song Yang also gradually learned to use self-deprecating to end the dispute between the two sides.
有时两个人发生了矛盾，宋扬想主动结束持续了一天的冷战，她就会在冰箱上粘一张纸条：“猩猩：你应该原谅蝴蝶了，你知道蝴蝶是著名的‘没头脑’，No matter how clever a butterfly is, its brain capacity will never exceed zero.
“I believe no one can hold his face in such a note.
Self-deprecation, seemingly self-deprecating, is actually the smartest way to end the dispute. In fact, it also avoids the emotional fluctuations caused by daily disputes. It is an unexpected trick to promote close relationships.
Second, don’t pay too much attention to his past. If you are not his first love, you must be full of inexpressible curiosity about his ex-girlfriend or ex-wife. This weird feeling comes from jealousy.
And if he is your first lover, this jealousy will replace the strong imbalance.
However, pursuing his past with a slap in the air will not help build mutual trust and intimacy.
Yes, you want to know, how did he meet his ex-girlfriend?
What did his parents say about his ex-girlfriend?
What was the real reason for their breakup?
Whether it’s a lie or the truth, what good will it do for you?
Force him to explain his past love history. If his answer is light and vague, you say he is “slick”; if he confesses the truth of the details one by one, your jealousy will be stronger.
For his ex-girlfriend, do you want him to forget as soon as possible, or do you want him to indulge in memories again and again?
So, don’t bother yourself, just think that his past has been burned by a fire.
Qiu Meiling, 31, said, “I’m a winner. Why ask the losers where they fled?
“Xin Yan Shi Yan!
After enjoying silent sex and creating an “action code” that only you would like to move into your new home, Zhou Miao instead refuses to her friends that the intimacy and tacit understanding between her and her husband are declining.
It turned out that one year ago they were still living with Zhou Miao’s parents.
In the case of “the wall has ears”, the two enjoyed a kind of almost silent sex, and created a lot of seemingly ordinary sexual secrets. Parents couldn’t understand, but they understood each other.
For example, Zhou Miao is a fruit and vegetable juice enthusiast. The “juicing task” is usually undertaken by her husband.
One hour after dinner, he would come and ask, “I’m going to squeeze fresh orange juice. Would you like a glass.
“Fresh orange juice” is his signal. If Zhou Miao wants to go online or watch a video alone, she said, “Stop fresh orange juice today, squeeze a glass of carrot and tomato juice for me.”
“Sometimes I go out to eat. When the waiter laughs and asks: Mr. Miss wants red wine or fresh orange juice, the two of them will laugh heartily, and the husband will rush to say,” Come on a glass of fresh orange juice.of.
Now remember, the silent film era of “fresh orange juice” is also fascinating.
In the vertical with ears in the partition wall, silent sex relies on the tacit understanding of the soul to bring the two parties to a state of fun and indulgence.
Zhou Miao had a sudden inspiration and whispered, “Oh, we have sex in the museum like a thief.
“Yes, there are” alarm bells “and” infrared protection nets “all around the place. The joy of this adventure makes the intimacy become a feeling of” coming together in one boat “.
Apparently, the empty new home has reduced the motivation for sex between the two sides. Zhou Miao began to warmly invite both parents to stay for a while, and was also keen to stay with friends from afar.
She will buy a large basket of oranges in advance and ask everyone: “Are you interested in a glass of freshly squeezed orange juice?”But she only needs to watch one’s reaction.
Third, find a platform to get along with alone. Gossip. Don’t expect that after seven years of marriage, you will continue to pour out your love with sweet words.
Gossip is often more suitable for this stage, which is about love and family, and coincides with various family planning assumptions.
At the time of changing her new home, 32-year-old Guo Jin chose an apartment with a terrace on the top floor. She made a fir sun house on the terrace and put rattan and canvas deck chairs.
The wooden house is also where they dry their clothes. It has wooden bookshelves, potted plants, and a single-door refrigerator that has been eliminated from the home.
Mr. Guo’s husband often finds champagne and fresh matcha cakes in the refrigerator. Once, he also found a large box of ice cream inside.
These reserves are all provided by Guo Rong for “gossip.”
On the weekend, after the child and babysitter were asleep, the two climbed onto the terrace to drink champagne, lay down each other, and talked leisurely.
The topic is nothing more than what plants should be replaced in the courtyard, which kind of water-saving sprinkler is more cost-effective; the ridiculous thing happened at the last class reunion; the joke in the office; the seventh method of P. vannamei; and, somePersonal whimsy, for example, Guo Guang wants to paint on the original wooden chair at home, and turns them into “flower chairs” and “fruit chairs”, but worried that her parents would think that she was going crazy, “Last timeThey heard that I went to buy four bizarre expensive rosewood chairs and already thought that I was going crazy; this time I would draw pictures again, wouldn’t I go crazy again?
As a result, Guo Rong quickly got the support of his husband. His reason was: “Isn’t it just four chairs?”
How to pass a limited life without doing unhelpful things?
“Patios and fir huts eventually became the place where the couple reached a lot of trivialities.
Marriage life inevitably has its homely trivial side, and one of the sources that interfere with the sense of tacit understanding is to replace the crumbs with endless romance and avoid trivialism. This approach is ostrich-like. Trivialism is everywhereRather gossiping and experience the subtle fun behind trivialities.